68 year old in Australia

At fifteen or so I was very proud of my erection, and one day I showed it to a bunch of my friends, who promptly teased me because I had a down-turned glans. They didn't bother to mention - and it was years until I figured it out - that my penis was much bigger than most of theirs! Playing with other boys, I also became aware of some differences. No one else had two openings: one at the tip of the glans and another just under the glans. I've also got a foreskin hood that partially covers just the top of my. Of course, having two openings means that the direction of my urine is rather unpredictable - I often miss the toilet at the start, though a urinal can handle it.

When I sought counselling in college to try and figure things out the psychiatrist sent me to a urologist, who looked at my erection and said I had nothing to worry about since my penis would work just fine and was bigger than most. If he mentioned hypospadias, I don't remember. But I still worried that because my penis head curved down, I wouldn't be able to perform intercourse, and the head is also shorter than most, so my penis seems blunt. When I was in high school I incorrectly attributed the downward curvature to the confining influence of my briefs on my constant erections – just one of the many ideas I came up with when explanations of my hypospadias weren't offered.

I didn't really come to terms with my gay nature until 1975 when I was thirty two. I used to worry about my penis being different from what it was "supposed to be", but once I became sexually active as a gay man I realized that the differences weren't particularly important to me or my partners. Occasionally someone comments about the extra urethral opening, but I've heard no complaints. If I have any regrets, it's that I wasted a lot of energy worrying about being different because no one dared to explain my penis to me while I was growing up. My advice to someone else with hypospadias would be to learn about yourself, learn that yours is just one of a rich variety of variation that nature has given us and try the many pleasant and enriching ways of employing it. You'll soon find yours to be quite serviceable and appreciated.